Self Defeating Belief Number 9

Every problem should have an ideal solution – and it is unbearable when one can’t be found.

It is natural to desire a positive outcome to problems in life. Problems occur when we demand a positive outcome and dismiss potentially satisfactory solutions in search of the perfect solution. When we demand that all problems are solved to perfection we once again set ourselves up for failure and distress. There is no evidence to suggest that there is a perfect outcome to any problem, and by searching for this we miss some very viable options. Often in life the options we are faced with are far from perfect, but that are satisfactory. If we dismiss them then the problem can actually become bigger and we expend more time and energy looking for a solution that just doesn’t exist.

A Healthier Idea

It is good to have a perfect solution to a problem, although that is rarely possible. There are often a variety of solutions and I am capable of using problem solving to choose the most appropriate solution.