Self Defeating Belief Number 7

It is easier to avoid problems and unpleasantness in my life than to face it.

On the surface it is sometimes easier to avoid a problem than to face it. By using avoidance as a coping strategy we can avoid dealing with issues that create feelings of uncomfort and distress. However by using avoidance as a short term coping strategy we set ourselves up for long term problems, that are often bigger and more difficult to solve that the original problem. By avoiding a problem we also are avoiding responsibility and the opportunity to grow and develop by facing new challenges. Avoidance also means that for the period of time that you avoid the problem, you are left with feelings of anxiety, fear and distress because you know deep down it’s not going to go away, rather than facing the problem (and the discomfort) head on, dealing with it and then getting on with the rest of your life.

A healthier idea

Facing difficult situations will make me feel bad at the time, but I can cope with that. Putting off problems doesn’t make them any easier, it just gives me longer to worry about them.