Self Defeating Belief Number 6

If something is going to be dangerous or frightening, then I should be terribly concerned about it and worry about it a great deal to stop it from happening.

This belief is irrational and it only serves to create anxiety in your life. How many times have you gone over and over a particular concern or future event in your mind and found yourself feeling very anxious, only to find that when that event did happen everything went smoothly? Believing this statement only serves to create a lot of unless worry in your life and wastes a lot of energy. Worry does not solves problems, it only creates more, and it certainly doesn’t stop the event you are worried about from actually happening. If you do find that you are worried about something it is much healthier to ask yourself what the probability of that event occurring is and then use problem solving techniques to create a solution. After doing that you can then free you mind of the worry and you already have a solution.

A healthier idea

Worrying about something that might go wrong won’t stop it from happening, it just makes me unhappy now! I can take constructive steps to prepare for possible problems, and that is as much as anyone can do. So I won’t dwell on the future now.