Friends and Partners

Having Friends and Partners

Having breadth and depth in personal relationships is vital to our mental health and overall happiness.

Supportive co workers, friendly neighbours, confidants and very close friends protect us from sadness, loneliness low self esteem.

Social Capital is all the support, trust and good will we accumulate by way of our relationships and community involvement. It is important to have a strong and varied social network.

Our ability to internalise others is a key skill common to a healthy accomplished and satisfying life. The skill involves decorating your space with pictures of loved and loving people, having active sociable activities in your diary, especially ones that don’t involve alcohol.

Whether we are outgoing or not we need to join groups where we are welcome and valued.

“No Amount of wildlife can makeup for human company”   David Attborough.

Loneliness

Loneliness is natures emotional reminder that we must progress in our relationships in and with our world.

Loneliness represents the absence of intimacy that involves knowing understanding and caring for not only other people but for our homes, work and life skills.

Loneliness could be regarded as signal that we are too detached.

It is better to regard emotions as energy levels that we can chose to channel into activities that help our well being rather than being destructive.

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Managing Loneliness

Engage in a fully involving task.

Walking in the country side for example deepens our relationship with the world.

Walking in the countryside with friends deepens our relationship with them and the world.

Remember that a pleasure such as food or a glass of wine is a fleeting effect, active interest in mental or physical capabilities such as working at something or a good book is satisfying  and can leave a happiness trace that can last for days. The most happiness invoking actions is the love we have for another person or place or vocation and fills our life with meaning. Loneliness can be used to inspire such loves.

The Love of our Friends

Friendship is important for our physical and psychological health, but we often take this for granted and do not pay sufficient attention to it.

Human relationships change, they grow or shrink, as do our emotional, intellectual and personal persuits. Our friends persuits also change and therefore so does our relationships with them.

Close friends view our victories and our failures as their own and will encourage us or pull us into line if we are not doing our best.

“In the company of a true friend we dare to think out loud without the need to edit ourselves”  author unknown.

A good friend will risk our irritability and will make up afterwards.

A good friend will not let you moan on about things, they want to know what you a re going to do about it. They will help us see different perspectives.  (perspective Exercise)

Make you closest friends a priority. Gratitude exercise